What Else You Should Know About Thai’s Sex Tourism Industry?
Inspite of the fact that a Thai lady can be a Western man’s perfect partner, the horror stories circulating on the internet should NOT be ignored. Let me elaborate.
Sex tourism is a large part of Thailand’s economy, and while there are no concrete statistics, it’s estimated that it accounts for almost 2% of the economy.
Year after year it’s reported that adult males are the largest group of tourists heading to Thailand for vacation. Are they coming here to play golf? Or are these men coming into Thailand in search of their perfect Thai bride, only to get conned and ripped off by the sex trade?
Although prostitution in Thailand is officially illegal, the Thai government itself recognizes its overwhelming financial impact on tourism and does very little to regulate it.
And the Thai cultural opinion of prostitution is mixed. It’s common for a man to have a paid mistress or visit a prostitute, as Thai men and women both believe that the sexual urge of men is much stronger than that of women, and is considered to be a basic instinct or psychological need. Like puritanical Western cultures, it’s ok – even encouraged –for men to have premarital sex, casual sex, or visit prostitutes, because it’s considered less of a threat to a long term relationship or marriage. Even Thai women believe that prostitution provides an outlet for men’s “natural” urges that reduces the number of rapes.
So while it’s illegal, the attitude of most Thais is that prostitution is a necessary part of society. While they disapprove of prostitution in general, Thais consider themselves a tolerant people, and prostitution doesn’t carry much of a lasting stigma. Some men don’t mind marrying a former prostitute, and most sex workers think their occupation is “normal.” After all, they’re only doing it so they can send money home to their families.
The prevalence of prostitution in tourist areas and the circulation of horror stories online make it more and more difficult for Western men to find a real Thai lady – a good woman from a good family who’s not involved in the sex industry –who’s seeking a Western man as her partner.
Bars, go-gos, karaoke clubs, and massage parlors are NOT the place to find a good wife – they are where the sex trade is plied most obviously – and in the tourist areas, Western men are their target market.
Now don’t begin to think, as others have, that the sex industry has suddenly sprung up to satisfy a corrupt Western desire to exploit us poor Thai’s. It has been here long before Thailand became a popular destination for Western guys. In a typical Thai pragmatic way, it has met the needs of men from China, Japan and other parts of Asia, including Thailand and continues to do so today.
However, it does seem that it’s mostly Western guys who mistakenly think there is something other then business going on. They are certainly the target of choice for an enterprising bar girl.
The Thai Bar Scene
The Bar Scene in the tourist hot spots of Bangkok, Pattaya, and Phuket are a sight to see. The music…the lights…the liquor…it seems that pretty girls are just everywhere. And everyone is a “handsome man” – including you!
The game in any of those places is this: a bar girl’s job is to take your money. Period. It’s not personal. The house gets a percentage of every dollar you spend. You buy her drinks? The house wins. You pay her for sex? The house wins. You give her money for any reason? The house always wins.
And a skillful bar girl knows how to smile, how to act, how to dress, and exactly how to flirt and flatter you to get you to open your wallet and keep the cash flowing.
Plenty of guys come just to play — and the smart ones play and leave. They have no intention of anything more than having a party with their friends, a $10 sexual encounter with a beautiful girl, or a quick fling for a few days. They have no illusion that they’ll walk out of the bar with “Miss Right.” Right or wrong – the Thai bar scene is legendary for one night stands — and it’s big business.
But for those guys who are looking for a real relationship – it’s a killing field.
The guy who is lonely and open to finding a partner is like blood in the water to a school of sharks. Even the average bar girl will sense his vulnerability from across the room. He’s as good as dead meat.
As the law of averages play out it’s only a matter of time until he is betrayed, conned, or robbed, and left angry, confused, or worse.
Perhaps he’ll put a video on YouTube or write a blog post warning other guys about how Thai women can’t be trusted – painting all of them with the same broad brush, rather than just venting his anger at the Thai bar girl who separated him from his cash.
And maybe, like many other hapless men, he’ll visit yet another bar, and find yet another bar girl who he just KNOWS is different — and continue his self-destructive cycle to its logical conclusion.
The brutal truth is this: the bar scene is a low-percentage game. Most relationships that start there are guaranteed to fail.
The Peculiar Species Known as the Thai Bar Girl
Most gentlemen would never consider a long-term romantic relationship with a sex worker in their home country. But for some reason, all that common sense flies out the window once they get to Thailand. Especially if they never spend more than the occasional weekend outside the typical tourist areas like Bangkok, Phuket, or Pattaya, where their view of Thai women is shaped (and skewed) by that peculiar species known as the Thai Bar Girl.
Let me introduce you.
Who She Is:
• She is typically from a country province and was lured away by stories of easy money to be made in the tourist spots of Thailand.
• She is incredibly cute, friendly, and flirtatious…and appears oh so innocent, or deliciously devilish.
• She fits neither of the worn-out stereotypes of a sex worker: the jet-setter making bags of money or the whipped, grimy urchin chained to the floor begging for food. She fits somewhere between.
• She has no legal standing in Thailand. Her job is not recognized as legitimate, and is considered illegal. This leads to exploitation, as there is no minimal wage or limit on work hours.
• She is seen in the bottom of the social class, and is not considered highly in Thai society — although she is not thought of as poorly as a Western prostitute tends to be in Western society.
• Her family most likely does not condone what she does, and will not speak of it, but will privately accept the money and feel she has done her duty honorably.
• She has one redeeming quality in the eyes of Thai society: she often sends money home to assist her family.This creates an honorable balance with what it is she does to earn that money.
• She has a well-developed support network in the industry that she knows, trusts, and depends on.
• Deep down she would like to lead a normal quiet life in a monogamous relationship according to traditional Thai values, but the road back to that lifestyle is extremely difficult to negotiate as her primary support network is almost entirely enmeshed in the sex industry.
• She is gaining more representation and a voice through organizations such as http://www.empowerfoundation.org
What She Does:
• She has been insulted and abused by enough Western
men that she feels they are fair game and deserve to be deceived.
• She is a trained expert in extracting maximum cash from Western men, using emotional manipulation.
• She is an expert at triggering the automatic masculine response to take care of, protect and provide for the feminine of the species, and she will exploit that response to the fullest
extent.
• She is an expert at making any guy believe– and feel — that he is “the one” who has a special bond with her (and she often strings several of them along simultaneously).
• She will kid herself and convince her boyfriend(s) that the only thing keeping her from leaving the bar scene once and for all is enough money.
The Bottom Line
Getting involved with a Thai Bar Girl is a low-odds game. We’ve seen men who never learn, going from one disastrous relationship to another, never venturing outside the tourist traps or bars to find an honest, respectable Thai lady. Sure, nothing is really impossible…there are a few stories about successful marriages between Western gentlemen and Thai bar girls or former prostitutes. But the odds are stacked against it.
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