What Does it Mean to Be a “Real Man”?
It sits alongside a highway in North Carolina, USA. Not far from the town of Winston-Salem.
The sign is so offensive say some women, they’re organizing a protest march.
That’s according to CBS News.
You can read the story here: http://www.cbsnews.com/news/demonstration-planned-in-north-carolina-over-billboard/
“Why So Angry, Ladies?”
How about you? Are you offended?
I’m not.
Not only am I not offended, I think it’s another example of how western women are losing themselves.
And losing western men.
Yes. Losing their guys.
Maybe it’s because of the business I’m in. (You see, I own an Introduction & Dating Agency here in Bangkok.) So I hear it all the time. Guys tell me over and over. They’re fed up with western women.
And it’s not just me.
People like Pew Research say marriage rates are down, except marriages between western guys and asian women. They’re going up.
It’s an amazing trend, right? Guys are now looking outside their country to find partners. It’s because they still want to be with ladies who have strong traditional family values. And they’re coming to Asia to find her.
“But Men Do Provide…”
I don’t understand.
Men provide.
It’s what they do.
It’s hardwired into the DNA of men.
It’s been an evolutionary necessity since the beginning. Our species wouldn’t be here if men did not protect, defend and provide for their women and children.
Men will go to war. Take on high risk jobs. Go to the ends of the earth. To provide.
A man’s self worth is tied to the degree he can provide. Not just to his family but also his community.
Men get depressed if they can’t provide. They feel it in their core. If they’re not providing, they must be a “burden”. There’s no middle ground for a man.
It’s just the way Nature has set it up.
Men protect, defend and provide because they’re better equipped to do so.
And women?
Let’s face it. Women are attracted to the security a man provides. We always have been. It’s in our evolutionary DNA.
Femininity flourishes when masculinity is present.
How can a woman be eight months pregnant and breastfeeding if she’s not well protected and provided for?
It’s very primal stuff. These roles men and women take on to create the next generation.
Men provide and women nurture. It’s a partnership. It’s a relationship. It’s been the most successful way to bring children into the world. The survival of our genes has depended on it.
“Can Ladies Do It All?”
Can women provide, protect and defend, too?
Of course.
If that’s the role she wants.
Men have moved over.
In the West women can go to war, take on high risk jobs and go to the ends of the earth, too.
But here’s the problem. Here’s the Kool Aid women are drinking.
They’re being told they can do it all.
And they are demanding everyone agrees.
Not only can she be single and fabulous. She can be at the top of her profession. Easily beating those workaholic men for the top positions while maintaining a more balanced lifestyle with plenty of “me” time.
And not only that.
She can be a super mum, too.
Who needs a man?
She can do it all. Easily.
Right?
Wrong.
The reality is we all need to choose.
No woman can be a super mom, when she’s in an cubicle and her kid is dumped in day care.
No woman can compete for the top corporate position while she’s nursing and nurturing a small tribe at home.
You can’t do both.
Pick one.
“Our Men. Our Future.”
I’ve said this before. In Thailand women have not bought into the anti-man movement.
Maybe it’s because we’re still rural. Even though the cities are huge, most people still have family working on the land. We’re still close to the land. I’m not sure. But I don’t think we’re going to change like women in the west have. We hear the argument women make. It just doesn’t make sense. We like our traditional roles. We like men to be masculine and to be leaders.
I have thousands of ladies who are members of my Dating Agency who think the same way. They’re looking for good men.
Not because they want to compete with them.
It’s because they want to be wives and moms to their children.
We get it.
We know we need fine men to protect and provide for us. It’s so we can nurture and be mothers to the next generation.
Sure. It’s old fashion. We like it that way.
Yes. Real men do provide.
And we very much appreciate them for it.
Nathamon Madison is the owner of Meet Me Now Bangkok.
She offers dating solutions to guys who want to meet eligible single ladies for long term relationship.
She operates a dating website where you can chat online to Thai singles.
And for the guy who’s looking for a more certain solution, Nathamon offers personal dating events. You can meet lots of like minded ladies in a customized program that’s safe and fun on your own Dating Tour.
For more information contact Nathamon here.
