Here’s What I Want You to Know About Cultural Attitude on Money
Western View:
Money comes from individual effort and I am the source of money in my own life.
In Western culture, money can be seen as a direct byproduct of independence and freedom. Very few people have the kinds of family connections (or relationships) to willingly share money or lend it casually. Money is a resource generated by your own efforts, or by your ability to prove that you can repay it on business terms. And your ability to take care of yourself if you get sick, lose your job, start a business, or experience a crisis depends almost entirely on your ability to generate and manage money in your own life. You don’t have an extensive network of friends or relatives committed to taking care of you if you’re in need.
Thai View:
Money is a resource to be shared.
Although Thais also see money as a vital resource, in Thai culture money moves around within the group much more freely than in Western culture. Your Thai lady will freely give money to friends, sisters, brothers, parents, neighbors and cousins, knowing the flow within the group is endless. Unlike you, the average Thai man in his 40’s has an extensive network of money sources to support him in a crisis, fund a project, or care for him in his old age.
How this cultural difference can affect your relationship with a Thai lady?
As a man, you have a natural tendency to want to protect and provide for a group larger than just yourself. It’s a masculine trait and you should feel proud about your ability to share and provide.
Understanding the cultural differences in your money mindset changes everything…or it should. It is one issue that must be raised and talked about early — or sooner or later it will poison your relationship. When your Thai lady understands that money is your life blood and you are its only source, your “odd” behavior around money will start making sense to her. When she realizes you don’t have the same kind of money support network she’s used to in her own country, she’ll likely become an accountant par excellence, joining forces with you in partnership to manage your resources.
She’ll understand your Western mindset, appreciate your masculine generosity and desire to protect and provide, but she’ll still be very glad to be Thai. It won’t change her sense of obligation or her desire to send money to her parents and family – but it will lead to compromise and a better understanding of one another.
Unless of course, you ARE being conned.
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